Two years, three months, and 28 days ago I became a Marylander--or at least I moved to Maryland. I had gotten a job, rented a townhouse, put all my belongings on a moving truck, got in my car, and drove 1,121 miles to my new residence.
After living in the same state my entire life, I wanted to make a change. I needed to make a change. It was a good thing. In doing so however, I not only left Minnesota behind, I left behind something very important...connections. Connections with church, co-workers, family members, places, and friends.
I was thinking all those could be replaced and new connections could be made. But as an introvert it was more of a challenge than I ever imagined. Of all those left behind connections, friends have been the scarcest commodity here in Maryland. It’s not because I haven’t meet people. I have shaken hands and discussed the weather with numerous people. Acquaintances seem easy, a real and meaningful friendship--not easy at all.
I left a large, contemporary church where I’d attended 20 years. I had joined numerous small groups over the years that lead to several amazing friendships. Through the studies, I learned so much from Beth Moore, Ray Vander Laan, R. C. Sproul and other wonderful Bible teachers.
So the solution to my emptiness seemed so obvious - I needed to find a church and get connected. I found the church and yet I resisted a connect group.
Thoughts ran through my head again and again...
- What if they don’t like me?
- What if I don't like them?
- I’m divorced...will I be judged?
- Share my deep dark secrets? No way.
- Will I know enough about the Bible?
- I just don't have the time.
Over time, through the noise, I begin to hear another small voice...
- What if I am missing out on new great friendships?
- Maybe I have something to share that could help someone else!
- So I divorced, I am still a valued child of God.
- There's so much more I can learn from studies and other people.
- We all make time for what's important.
This fall I am going to do it!
I am going to step out, take a deep breath, and find a connect group.
Am I excited? Yes.
Am I nervous? Absolutely!
But, I am going to do it.
How about you?
Will you consider joining me in finding a connect group this fall?
We will both be happy we did.