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#MyStory - How I Realized I Need a Connect Group

Posted by Janelle Webber on

Two years, three months, and 28 days ago I became a Marylander--or at least I moved to Maryland. I had gotten a job, rented a townhouse, put all my belongings on a moving truck, got in my car, and drove 1,121 miles to my new residence.

After living in the same state my entire life, I wanted to make a change. I needed to make a change. It was a good thing. In doing so however, I not only left Minnesota behind, I left behind something very important...connections. Connections with church, co-workers, family members, places, and friends.

I was thinking all those could be replaced and new connections could be made. But as an introvert it was more of a challenge than I ever imagined. Of all those left behind connections, friends have been the scarcest commodity here in Maryland. It’s not because I haven’t meet people. I have shaken hands and discussed the weather with numerous people. Acquaintances seem easy, a real and meaningful friendship--not easy at all.

I left a large, contemporary church where I’d attended 20 years. I had joined numerous small groups over the years that lead to several amazing friendships. Through the studies, I learned so much from Beth Moore, Ray Vander Laan, R. C. Sproul and other wonderful Bible teachers. 

So the solution to my emptiness seemed so obvious - I needed to find a church and get connected. I found the church and yet I resisted a connect group.

Thoughts ran through my head again and again...

  • What if they don’t like me?
  • What if I don't like them?
  • I’m divorced...will I be judged?
  • Share my deep dark secrets? No way. 
  • Will I know enough about the Bible?
  • I just don't have the time. 

Over time, through the noise, I begin to hear another small voice...

  • What if I am missing out on new great friendships?
  • Maybe I have something to share that could help someone else!
  • So I divorced, I am still a valued child of God.
  • There's so much more I can learn from studies and other people.
  • We all make time for what's important. 

This fall I am going to do it!

I am going to step out, take a deep breath, and find a connect group.

Am I excited? Yes.

Am I nervous? Absolutely!

But, I am going to do it.  

How about you?

Will you consider joining me in finding a connect group this fall?

We will both be happy we did. 

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#MyStory - How I Realized I Need a Connect Group

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Two years, three months, and 28 days ago I became a Marylander--or at least I moved to Maryland. I had gotten a job, rented a townhouse, put all my belongings on a moving truck, got in my car, and drove 1,121 miles to my new residence.

After living in the same state my entire life, I wanted to make a change. I needed to make a change. It was a good thing. In doing so however, I not only left Minnesota behind, I left behind something very important...connections. Connections with church, co-workers, family members, places, and friends.

I was thinking all those could be replaced and new connections could be made. But as an introvert it was more of a challenge than I ever imagined. Of all those left behind connections, friends have been the scarcest commodity here in Maryland. It’s not because I haven’t meet people. I have shaken hands and discussed the weather with numerous people. Acquaintances seem easy, a real and meaningful friendship--not easy at all.

I left a large, contemporary church where I’d attended 20 years. I had joined numerous small groups over the years that lead to several amazing friendships. Through the studies, I learned so much from Beth Moore, Ray Vander Laan, R. C. Sproul and other wonderful Bible teachers. 

So the solution to my emptiness seemed so obvious - I needed to find a church and get connected. I found the church and yet I resisted a connect group.

Thoughts ran through my head again and again...

  • What if they don’t like me?
  • What if I don't like them?
  • I’m divorced...will I be judged?
  • Share my deep dark secrets? No way. 
  • Will I know enough about the Bible?
  • I just don't have the time. 

Over time, through the noise, I begin to hear another small voice...

  • What if I am missing out on new great friendships?
  • Maybe I have something to share that could help someone else!
  • So I divorced, I am still a valued child of God.
  • There's so much more I can learn from studies and other people.
  • We all make time for what's important. 

This fall I am going to do it!

I am going to step out, take a deep breath, and find a connect group.

Am I excited? Yes.

Am I nervous? Absolutely!

But, I am going to do it.  

How about you?

Will you consider joining me in finding a connect group this fall?

We will both be happy we did. 

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