Few things in life are more powerful than sexual desire; and few things destroy life more quickly. This world is selling the idea of ‘total satisfaction.’ This deadly myth, that you can be totally satisfied in this world. The world literally pumps this message into the media and into our conscience, that we are to seek sexual satisfaction and that it is our right. I just want to tell you that is a lie from hell!
You will never be sexually satisfied and fulfilled in the way that hell wants you to believe on planet earth. There is so much selfishness around the beauty of sexuality, it’s not even funny. The truth is, some of you are thinking, “Well, If my wife/husband were only more giving…if they were only more present," and you close your heart to your spouse because they aren’t the fulfilling sexual partner that your fantasy created. Get real!
It is the nature of our brokenness and disconnection from God that nothing on earth will ever be complete and whole; only Jesus makes wholeness happen. So that means that when you are hurting and when you are wounded inside and when you need completion, you go to Him first. Let me just tell you that an affair will always be more exciting in the beginning than the reality of true life together in marriage. It’s kind of like the flare of a match. It’s going to burn real brightly, for a moment, right before it burns you up!
When you and I have set our life on desiring Jesus and the truth of God, which will last forever, then out of that desire, what we pursue in life fills our life with great things and eternal things. But when our desire is corrupt and broken and when we give our lives over to brokenness, it just breaks our life and breaks the next generation’s even more. Isaiah 64:6 says “…our sins sweep us away like the wind.”
I just want to leave you all with this; the only thing that can save your hurting heart is Jesus. If you are in a place where you realize that nothing else can save you, nothing else can answer the emptiness and the pain and the desire for connection and intimacy and significance than Jesus. If you are willing to sacrifice what is false for the sake of what is true, then go to Jesus and ask for His help. You and I have to make a foundational decision in our lives. Are we going to seek salvation from Jesus or are we going to seek salvation from sexuality? The flame may be pretty, but it burns really hot! –Dr.Drew Shofner